Today I’m talking about “rape culture” and why I have a deeper understanding of why it’s so pervasive from having gone through the court system as a victim myself.
Please feel free to share.
I posted a link to a paper about the sexual assault “defence” of “Honest Mistaken Belief in Consent” in the comments.
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much love Ciara ❤
much love Ciara
For those interested, this is a paper about the case law I was speaking of and was used in my case. http://www.nsbs.org/archives/CPD/80597.pdf
You are one of the strongest people I know! Hugs.
Much love, Ciara ❤️
Much love, Ciara
It wasn’t until you mentioned the first sexual assault as a 14 year old that I remembered something I have showed away in my brain for many years.
I’ve never told this to anyone, not even my boyfriend through 7 years. I am ashamed even though I did nothing wrong.
My male friend and I had known each other since birth and shared lots of fun times together, also lots of sleepovers. They used to be cosy and fun but that night wasn’t fun. I woke up with his hands all over my body, fumbling around. I must have been 13 years old or so.. It took a moment before I realized what was happening and then I froze. For several long moments I lay still and thought about what to do because… he was my friend.. and this would be so awkward if I confronted him. Somehow I managed to wrap myself tightly like a burrito in my duvet with the ends underneath me and he gave up as it became too difficult for him to get to my body.
I don’t remember what happened the next morning or afterwards, but our friendship hasn’t been the same ever since though I have had to see him again on several occasions because of certain circumstances. But that night our friendship ended for me. And I wasn’t a child anymore.
I was ashamed.
Oh sweetheart, I’m so sorry this has brought up bad memories for you. It’s a sign though that it’s time to share and heal that part of you. I hope you’ll speak to your boyfriend. Love your heart and honesty Maja, so lucky to have you as part of my tribe. I’m so glad our paths connected. Xo
I agree, and I think a part of healing that is telling my boyfriend.
I’m so happy to be a part of your tribe. You truly inspire me to be better and stronger and more honest with myself every day. ❤️
I agree, and I think a part of healing that is telling my boyfriend.
I’m so happy to be a part of your tribe. You truly inspire me to be better and stronger and more honest with myself every day.
I’m honoured to inspire that in you.
I’m so sorry this happened to you Ciara. I am a mom of two boys so I am listening and finding ways in every day to day life to remind my boys about consent and respect and about not forcing a person to do something they don’t want to do. It’s a conversation that must be had with all young males out there.
Thank you for taking the time to share your story. It’s so important that we have an open dialogue so we can move forward and change how these situations are handled.